“Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.” Proverbs 31:23-24 NIV
He has a life and she has a life. They both have their own interests, friends, and occupation. One sees the other and celebrates and respect his/her accomplishments. He is fully a person and so is she.
This is a beautiful picture of people who have their own identity and in their freedom chose one another. This is a picture of a healthy relationship. A relationship of support and mutual partnership.
I once heard “when I am me, and you are you, we can be… but if I am you or you are me we can’t work”. It’s good to be in relationships, but it all starts with developing our selfs first and foremost and not seek our deficit in our partner, but in the Lord.