“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11 NIV
Whenever we receive a couple in critical status it is evident they have what is called a “negative sentiment override” which is a fancy way to say no one can do anything good in the other person’s eye. This is a dangerous place to be because they see each other as opponents and perhaps enemies. One of the maneuvers we promote is the installment of a new, fresh, and unnatural system: OUT-SERVE your partner, every day, for 7 days (until our next session).
The biggest pushback? But my partner is or isn’t XYZ!!! My response? I KNOW! There’s a negative sentiment override operating here. We already know toxicity is in the air. What we need is grace, small consistent droplets of grace.
Let us not be discouraged by negativity. It’s out there and sometimes it is a part of our work environment, school setting, and perhaps family relationships. What we can do is commit to be light, or in keeping with this example, to be water… fresh, cooling, and nourishing. Let us be water today.
